My cousin and I recently had a discussion about a classmate who ended her life because of her husband’s infidelities, leaving behind their 9 year old son. If you know me then you know that The First Wives Club is one of my top 3 favorite movies of all time. Channing Tatum’s character jumped from her penthouse apartment after her husband left her for a younger woman. There have been many people who called our classmate selfish….others have said how could she do that to her poor son. You know what I keep thinking? I’m so upset that she feels like she didn’t have anyone to talk to! I have always believed that the people left behind are the selfish ones. Let’s think about it. YOU think she’s selfish because she made the decision to not continue living. YOU think she’s selfish for leaving you and them. Doesn’t that make YOU the selfish one for not considering what she was going through?
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I’m sorry for what depressed people go through. I’ve been depressed myself, but children don’t ask to be born and once they are here, its up to us (parents) to do what we have to do to take care of them. A major part of that is reaching out and getting help and taking care of ourselves. I’ve seen the aftermath of what children of parents who have committed suicide go through. I don’t think they are selfish for wanting their parents to take care of them. When a person commits suicide and has children depending on them, I understand that they are very ill are making choices with an ill mindset, but there are very real consequences for the survivors of those type of choices.
TJ´s last [type] ..Monday News: Rodney King
I have to agree with TJ. There are other options. Putting your own feelings in front of the feelings/needs of those that depend on you is selfish.
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chele´s last [type] ..Changing the Conversation
I don’t think it’s selfish but, I do think she had some other mental health issues going on other than her husband’s infidelities. We have placed such a horrible stigma on the idea that someone needs mental health help that people “suffer in silence” to the point that, when they do decide to end it all, the reason seems trivial. However, they’ve probably been dealing with mental health issues for a very long time. The pain for that person is very deep and very real and even if they may have kids, they still can’t see their way through the pain. Also, she may have had a chemical imbalance, she could have been bi-polar,etc. I’ve done enough psych nursing to know that, it’s never that black and white and I’d never call anyone who ended their life selfish.
bayoucreole´s last [type] ..Who’s in the House?
When people are severely depressed, folks often think they will just “snap out of it”. More than likely, she tried to cry out for help before she took her life and others just missed it. I was there when my mom passed and I sought help. Too often folks are embarrassed to seek the help they so desperately need because of the stigma bayou mentioned. They are selfish, they are hopeless. Without hope, people perish.
MzNewy´s last [type] ..Whew!
Typo that should have said “They aren’t selfish, they are hopeless. Without hope, people perish.”
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