Eight months and seven days. Not a touch, a tickle, or a lick. The other day I found myself saying “I’m going to make it to a year. I only have four more months to go. I can do it.”
But the goal wasn’t on a time line. It’s one of the few that wasn’t.
Grow my hair……for a year.
Go skiing…..before the end of the year.
Let my hair grow out……until my next birthday.
Take a vacation to someplace new and exotic……..in the next 12 months.
Celibacy was one of those goals that didn’t have a time frame. Instead, I decided to abstain until I was in a relationship where I thought the sex would be really really good and I wouldn’t feel the need to put him out before the sun came up. A passionate relationship…..some commitment. That’s what I told a girlfriend of mine today. No more cookie without commitment. Some dating, some getting to know each other, some time spent cuddling on the couch watching movies and talking politics….all of that is necessary for it to be defined as a relationship.
It’s easy to be celibate when there is no temptation and opportunity. So the true test will come when that changes.
…..going home.
Everybody talks and drives just like I do. No one teases me about the way I say “car” or “water”. We all sound the same. Only at home is it normal for the posted speed limit to be 60, I’m going 80, and folks are passing me like I’m in the way. I LOVE BEING IN DALLAS.
…..shopping with people who know me.
I’m steady picking up clothes in the wrong sizes and the associate is steady replacing them with the right sizes when she put them in the fitting room. LOL I got to the room and though to myself “I KNOW I picked up a 20 and a 22″ but everything hanging there was a 16. LOL She saved us a lot of usually wasted time AND I felt good about myself.
…..Dairy Queen.
There is just something about that little red roof that makes you want to stop and get a small chocolate dipped soft serve cone. It reminds me of growing up. When I was a child we lived around the corner from a Dairy Queen and every once in a while my mother would bring home a box of dilly bars. 
…..good food.
My sorority sisters met me at the mall and then took me to lunch at a restaurant called Houston’s. It was delicious! I had jumbo lump crab cakes (y’all know how I like my crab cakes!), a baked potato, and maple glazes carrots and peas. DAMMIT if that wasn’t the best meal I’d had in months!
…..fresh food markets.
Yesterday I went out and bought some peaches, potatoes, and white corn. Last night I roasted the corn for dinner….it was soooooooooo good. Perfectly cooked and smothered in butter. LOL For dessert I had one of my peaches and it was better than the corn. I had juice running all down my mouth. I love fresh fruits and veggies. Tonight I’m going to grill some tilapia and bake a potato. Whew…..I’m full just thinking about it.
…..phone calls from men with sexy voices.
I think that’s self explanatory. LOL
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