Yes I know that everyone has one.  That doesn’t mean that you always have to express it though.  People who are always “expressing their opinions” come off as know it alls and can be quite damn annoying.  I know!  I am currently working on keeping my thoughts to myself more often.  It’s like unsolicited advice.  Let me tell you something….unsolicited advice isn’t always appreciated and seldom doesn’t aggravate a person.  I know a woman who constantly gives unsolicited advice or her “opinion” on things that I’m doing and no matter how many times I tell her that “I didn’t ask you” she just doesn’t get it.  People have to got to realize that they are alienating themselves from people by always having to have an opinion on something.

Getting a new car?  Someone is going to give you unsolicited advice (their opinion) on the type of car you should get, the dealer you should go to, how much you should pay, etc…  The Grand Diva says to never give a person money advice unless you’re going to help them pay the bill when it comes.  Wise advice.

Going on vacation?  Someone is going to give you unsolicited advice (their opinion) on what type of clothes you should pack, where you should stay, what you should do once you’re there, etc…

Getting a new hairstyle?  Someone is going to tell you to cut it short, keep it long, color it, what style you look best in, etc…

Granted, in moderation, all of the above would be considered nice advice BUT nobody wants someone else always chiming in on what they should do.  I’ll repeat myself….IT’S ANNOYING.  And we all know people who not only dole out their opinion often but also have a haughty attitude about it like “I could give a shit if you asked or not.  I’m me and I’ll do whatever I want including telling you what’s best for your life.”  I’m sure that there are people out there who vibe well with folks like that, I just don’t happen to be one of them.  I rarely appreciate unsolicited advice in a one on one setting (I’m excluding blog comments from this discussion).  The thing that is probably most annoying is that anyone that KNOWS me and can be considered a FRIEND clearly knows how I feel about unsolicited advice.  I make every effort to keep my opinion to myself (I slip sometimes).  I’ll even go as far as asking if they want to know my opinion or not and I respect that.  THEY KNOW HOW I FEEL ABOUT IT.  So it pisses me off to an even greater extent when it’s a “friend” who is always pushing their opinion off on me.

I also dislike people who try to manage MY time.  If we aren’t travelling together then you really have no reason to worry about how my time will be spent.  I’m going to Dallas this weekend to visit some friends and do some shopping.  One of my friends is getting married and wants to hire me to coordinate her wedding (and they gave me a hard time about not kicking it with them in a while) so I decided to stay an extra night.  My mother says “You don’t have time to work on a wedding.  You’re just going shopping and coming right back.”

sigh

Don’t manage my time for me.  I can do that.

Maybe it’s the independence of being an only child.  Maybe it’s the stubborness of being a Capricorn.  Maybe I just don’t want folks minding my business.  if you tend to have a strong opinion that you often express and you wonder why folks deal with you at arms length then perhaps that’s why. Contrary to popular belief….it’s not cute.

Please don’t email me today asking if I’m talking about you…..I’m starting to get too many of those.