And a good day to ramble…
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• First of all, I am loving this song by Gerald Levert. I know it’s old but it’s a prime example of what was so great about him. He wrote songs that said what everybody else was thinking.

 

• I looked up the five stages of grief today. Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance. They say that this is the range of emotions you go through after you suffere a huge loss like the death of a loved one. I think people go through this when they break up with someone too. There was one website that proposed we go through these stages for even more minor things like when the car battery goes dead in the morning.  What I want to know is where is the stage of wanting comfort? Seriously. At some point during grief (or a dead battery) what you really want is for someone to make you feel better….a hug, a great bottle of wine, whatever does it for you.

 

• Speaking of which, I swear that great sex helps get you through being depressed. I made this statement to a friend and she replied that bad sex can make you depressed. LOL (watch this flow)…

 

• Good sex…has anyone ever asked their partner if they were good? TMI moment…in college, the boyfriend I lived with used to always tell me how good I was. One day I asked him just what the hell constitutes good cookie and he answered. It made sense. Back when McDreamy and I were going heavy he told me I was good too. Honestly, I’ve always figured that I was average and men just tell that lie to keep getting cookie. So I called up an ex and asked him if he could identify the best cookie he’d ever had. That fool said it was me. That’s right folks…..I’m admitting it to the blog world. Original Diva is working with the bomb diggity cookie. I’m laying it DOWN!

 

• Celibacy is hard. I need to say that out loud. But I’m doing good. The problem is not NOT having sex. There’s not a sole in sight to have sex with. My problem is ‘dreaming’ about having sex. So far I’m keeping my dream PG-13. I keep it down to kisses and cuddles. I get these sweet emails almost daily from this really great man and I know that I’d love to just cuddle with him in all the snow and kiss until our lips go numb. How sweet would that be? And the weekend is coming…..we could spend the next 4 days wrapped around each other in front of the fireplace….just kissing. Whew.

 

• I’m going to see my Pops this weekend. I’m going to help him clean out his closet and let his mama spoil me…cause I deserve it.

 

• Did anyone ever watch Boston Public? Remember when Harry started the suicide club? There was an episode where a student admitted that he was always to proud to join the club but simply knowing it was there saved his life. Just knowing that there were other people out there who felt like he did kept him from crossing into that other lane. I’m going to add a new category titled Suicide Diaries where I will explore the feelings of depression and despair that people often experience that drive them to the edge. It’s something that I have wanted to do for a while now. What I don’t want is anybody overreacting. Remember…you never know how what you have to say will influence someone else that you’ll never meet. Just knowing that there are words of comfort or total understanding of how a person is feeling can be what keeps them from swallowing that bottle. I get hundreds of hits on this blog daily. What if knowing that I came home and cried for hours lets a person know that they’re not alone? I wrote about some internal pain today and one of the comments said that it will take as long to get through something as it did to get into it. I love her so much for that right now. Thank you Chokk.
   
• Have a great weekend!

• Tim Hardaway……do I agree with what he said? Of course not.  Do I have a problem with him saying it?  Of course not!  That’s what free speech is all about.  He was asked a question and I really can appreciate the fact that he honest.  He told the world how he felt in regards to homosexuals and didn’t hold back.  He has the right to do that.  He didn’t use any profanity or derogatory words and no one should have been offended.  He has that right!  A caller on the radio this morning said that he did the same thing organizations like GLAAD are doing….putting their message out there loud and clear.  I’m also slightly bothered by the fact that the NBA has excluded him from all of this weekend’s activities.  Why does he have to accept homosexuals to participate?  Where in the contract is that one?  Those are his personal beliefs and stands and he’s being punished for them because society is saying that as a public figure he has to accept what everyone else is accepting.  News flash….everyone else isn’t accepting it.  If they were then same sex marriages would be legal in all 50 states.  The population of people who agree with Hardaway’s comments is definitely larger than those who don’t.  Hell, even if they weren’t, once again…those are his views and he is allowed to calmly express them.  I’ve said this before but I think we’re pushing it trying to be embracing and “correct.”
   
  Smooches in Supply ~ Original Diva (in Demand)